Affirmation of the Week



Relationships, we’re constantly surrounded by them, engaged in them… and it’s through them that I believe we learn our greatest lessons while we’re here on this planet.

If you were to look at the closest relationships surrounding you… how would you describe them? How do they nurture you? Support you? Make you feel? Are they hidden and clandestine or out in the open where everyone can see them? Do they put a smile on your face or bring tears of sadness to your eyes?

Look at the answers you receive… and now apply them to the relationship you have with your own self? I’m looking at this as a mirror image… that what we subconsciously believe about ourselves will manifest outward… and attract the same back to us. Just my opinion, feel free to disagree with me *grin*… but if we don’t value the relationship we have with our own self, if we don’t approve of our *self*… how can we then expect others to value the relationship they have with us?

But what if, once you start manifesting this affirmation and changes do start to filter in that aren’t easy, what if relationships that are closest to you start slipping away? Well this is when you really have to be honest with yourself… if they are not loving and supportive to you, then do you really need them in your life if you are to grow and move on from the past cycles that have finally been broken?

I approve of myself… I give myself comfort, nurture myself… I deserve good and loving relationships, not only with my own self, but with the others that surround me and gravitate towards me. I deserve a future filled with loving relationships.

© 2012 Michelle Payne


Acquainted with the Night


A friend of mine sent me this as he thought it was probably the best short poem he’s come across that sums up Depression very well.

Acquainted with the Night

I have been one acquainted with the night.
I have walked out in rain — and back in rain.
I have outwalked the furthest city light.

I have looked down the saddest city lane.
I have passed by the watchman on his beat
And dropped my eyes, unwilling to explain.

I have stood still and stopped the sound of feet
When far away an interrupted cry
Came over houses from another street,

But not to call me back or say good-bye;
And further still at an unearthly height,
A luminary clock against the sky

Proclaimed the time was neither wrong nor right.
I have been one acquainted with the night.

~~ Robert Frost ~~

New Section


A “Resource” section has now been included on the site. This is where I plan on sharing links to items and organisations that I hope will help and/or inspire you.

If there is any particular type of help and/or inspiration you’d like to see here, please do let me know.

Affirmation of the Week



This has to be one of the most important affirmations I have ever used, and it was also the very first one I started working with many years ago.

At its most basic level, this affirmation is about loving yourself.  Have you ever gone up to a mirror, looked in it and been able to truly tell yourself “I love you” without having done a lot of inner work beforehand?  Doing so without pulling faces, without giggling, grimacing or even crying.  Yes, I know of some people who have found this that hard and that painful!  I’ve also known some people who have refused to even entertain the thought of trying this, because it was so scary!

We all try to keep afloat in this world of ours, try to keep balance while there is no such thing as perfection.  We all make mistakes, we can all be nice, all more horrible, be helpful, be hindering: but it does seem that society generally focusses more on the negative so we learn that that is what we too “should” focus on.  That isn’t to say we should be going “Hey, I’ll do all that bad stuff and because I think it’s ok, it is”!  It’s not about condoning negative behaviour (or illegal behaviour come to that) nor is it about perpetuating negativity.  It is about looking honestly at ourselves and being able to let of our self-judgement, of finding ourselves “wanting” and of releasing that “perfectionism” which seems to drive so many of us.

At the end of the day, do you approve of yourself?  And if not, why not?

Have a great week and please share your thoughts on this affirmation, whether you think it may help you and if so, what change it helps to bring 🙂

© 2012 Michelle Payne



One thing that I have worked with in the past is Affirmations.  Now I know a lot of people think they don’t work and for some, this is true. For others however, they can extremely helpful at getting us to focus on a specific aspect within our lives for a period of time in order that we can activate change!  Yes, change takes work!  It’s not going to be handed to you by the Universe on a plate in my opinion and if it does, on those rare occasions you’ll probably find that those are the more “traumatic” experiences we go through and which we hate at the time!

If you think about the Cognitive Behavioural Therapy approach, affirmations could be said to identify with this framework.  By looking at our thoughts and focussing on our beliefs and attitudes about ourselves, we can then change our thoughts.  When this is applied practically, over a period of time.  This isn’t going to happen instantly, as I said, it takes work and is repetitive: then it can ultimately change how you feel which can, in turn, change your behaviour.

I think it’s important to also note that when working with affirmations, it’s always done with a view to changing ourselves, and in a positive way.  We cannot change other people and ultimately we are not responsible for the choices that they make: but we can change our perceptions, be responsible for our selves, and look to increase positivity, growth, happiness and joy in our own lives!

If there is an area you’d like to see included, please add a comment and I’ll see what I can do!

In the meantime, I hope to do an “Affirmation for the Week” for a period of time and hope you’ll join in to discuss them 🙂



© 2012 Michelle Payne

Hello and Welcome


Hello and welcome to the Blog section of my website.

This is where I will be sharing articles, my thoughts on many different subjects as well as lots of information that I hope people will find helpful and/or beneficial to their daily lives.

If there is any particular subject you would like discussed or highlighted, please let me know by posting a comment, and I will do my best to incorporate people’s ideas!

Looking forward to engaging, debating and discussing with everyone who visits here 🙂

Michelle / Dreamweaver Consulting

© 2012 Michelle Payne

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