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To Let Go Takes Love
To “let go” does not mean to stop caring;
it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To “let go” is not to cut myself off;
it is the realization that I can’t control another.
To “let go” is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To “let go” is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To “let go” is not to try to change or blame another;
it is to make the most of myself.
To “let go” is not to care for,
but to care about.
To “let go” is not to “fix”,
but to be supportive.
To “let go” is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To “let go” is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
To “let go” is not to be protective;
it is to permit another to face reality.
To “let go” is not to deny,
but to accept.
To “let go” is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them.
To “let go” is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes, and to cherish myself in it.
To “let go” is not to criticize and regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To “let go” is not to regret the past,
but to grow and to live for the future.
To “let go” is to fear less and to love more.
~ Robert Paul Gilles ~
from the book Thoughts of the Dream Poet : vol. 1
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The door swings open
a face then appears
an arm ushers you in…
you want to turn back
as your head starts to spin.
You enter a room and notice
a sofa, a chair, a table
you choose, you sit
your stomach starts to churn…
more than a little bit.
They smile and sit down
bring out some papers
their expression holding a slight frown.
the word “confidential”…
it’s not what you expected!
Where’s the warmth?
The confessional time?
Why are they not giving you
advice straight down the line?
And then it begins…
please tell me
what brings you here?
What would you like to offload?
What burden do you bear?
Their tone isn’t cold
nor their stare bold
instead, a slight leaning forward
and then you know
you may be here a while.
You glance around the room
evaluate and wonder…
what if you make a blunder?
Who can hear?
Does everyone feel this fear?
How much should I share?
Why would they even care?
Where should I start?
my racing heart!
A breath, a pause
Will I be judged or mocked?
Will they be blase or just plain shocked?
The tears begin to well
the hands go all sticky
by now the stomach feels just plain icky!
Then you decide
even thought it’s unknown
and feels hit or miss
you take a deep breath
and jump into the abyss.
I’m here because…
Your face floods red
your stomach pounds with dread.
You battle the feeling of creeping shame
where you have long held a belief of blame.
You lower your gaze to the floor
and out of your mouth
the words start to pour…
Words © August 2014 Michelle Payne
Picture found circulating freely online
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One thing I’m looking to create on this website is the Resources section which will include, among many companies, the charities and/or organisations that I personally support… and yes, that does mean with a regular financial contribution. Each one has an ethos that I absolutely admire… contributing to society with effects that ripple out and touch others’ lives across the world, not just for today… but for generations to come.
Each one also epitomises the ethic that I have as my byline… helping others to help themselves.
The first one I’m blogging about is Kiva.
So what’s it about? Kiva is basically a non-profit organisation that, through the use of the internet worldwide, gets everyday people like you and I, to club together and each lend a very small sum of money to people or groups across the world in third-world countries. As is stated on their website:
“We envision a world where all people
– even in the most remote areas of the globe
– hold the power to create opportunity
for themselves and others.”
I say lend because the money is repaid to you. Yes, there is a risk of default. Yes this happened to me ONCE. I’ve been a member since October 2007 and have made 17 loans so far. So considering those stats, once isn’t bad at all, especially when you consider how volatile some of these countries are. And of course, once that money has been repaid to you, you can re-lend it to someone else. It’s not just individuals either, there are also groups which get together, who commit to paying back whatever they borrow as a team, so if one person gets into difficulty, they all step in and help out.
So why do I do it?
Because I can. Because I have choice in my life. Because at the end of the day I believe in walking my talk, not just talking it.
I believe that if we are in a position to help others without detriment to ourselves, then not only do we have the opportunity before us that will help us to grow, learn and evolve, but that morally, we should. Not by saying the right things, not by putting a plaster over a wound, but instead by choosing to be part of something that empowers people, that allows them to make choices for themselves, that yes, they have to work for and will take the responsibility for of their choices and actions. To actively help to bring about positive change in others’ lives. This of course is my personal belief, what anyone else thinks and eventually acts on, is down to their own choices, beliefs and ultimately, their responsibility.
No, I may not know what actually happens in someone’s life as a result of my actions in “contributing”, no I won’t get (or expect) any kudos for this… but since everything we do, think about and respond to, ripples out and affects others’ lives, isn’t it good to know that you’re actually a part of something bigger than yourself, that you are doing something and that that may bring survival, hope, joy, happiness or even just a roof over someone’s head… and for that, $25.00 is a very small price to pay!
What’s stopping you from helping another?
Kiva’s website can be found by clicking here. If you are already a member, please do share with us your thoughts on the organisation, and if you choose to join, let us know why 🙂
© 2012 Michelle Payne
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