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To Let Go Takes Love
To “let go” does not mean to stop caring;
it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To “let go” is not to cut myself off;
it is the realization that I can’t control another.
To “let go” is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To “let go” is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To “let go” is not to try to change or blame another;
it is to make the most of myself.
To “let go” is not to care for,
but to care about.
To “let go” is not to “fix”,
but to be supportive.
To “let go” is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To “let go” is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
To “let go” is not to be protective;
it is to permit another to face reality.
To “let go” is not to deny,
but to accept.
To “let go” is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them.
To “let go” is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes, and to cherish myself in it.
To “let go” is not to criticize and regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To “let go” is not to regret the past,
but to grow and to live for the future.
To “let go” is to fear less and to love more.
~ Robert Paul Gilles ~
from the book Thoughts of the Dream Poet : vol. 1
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The door swings open
a face then appears
an arm ushers you in…
you want to turn back
as your head starts to spin.
You enter a room and notice
a sofa, a chair, a table
you choose, you sit
your stomach starts to churn…
more than a little bit.
They smile and sit down
bring out some papers
their expression holding a slight frown.
the word “confidential”…
it’s not what you expected!
Where’s the warmth?
The confessional time?
Why are they not giving you
advice straight down the line?
And then it begins…
please tell me
what brings you here?
What would you like to offload?
What burden do you bear?
Their tone isn’t cold
nor their stare bold
instead, a slight leaning forward
and then you know
you may be here a while.
You glance around the room
evaluate and wonder…
what if you make a blunder?
Who can hear?
Does everyone feel this fear?
How much should I share?
Why would they even care?
Where should I start?
my racing heart!
A breath, a pause
Will I be judged or mocked?
Will they be blase or just plain shocked?
The tears begin to well
the hands go all sticky
by now the stomach feels just plain icky!
Then you decide
even thought it’s unknown
and feels hit or miss
you take a deep breath
and jump into the abyss.
I’m here because…
Your face floods red
your stomach pounds with dread.
You battle the feeling of creeping shame
where you have long held a belief of blame.
You lower your gaze to the floor
and out of your mouth
the words start to pour…
Words © August 2014 Michelle Payne
Picture found circulating freely online
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